girl, why you be so ugly?

[liminal_space]

i don't quite get why people online (especially on here — this place is all about good vibes, man) feel the need to send long-winded shitty messages to people to try and make them feel bad. like, seriously, are you so insecure in your own existence that you have to lash out at someone else and make a conscious effort to demean, degrade, and beat down? that was a rhetorical question because, obvs, you are. 

any woman who throws shit down on another woman about her looks, her weight, or her mental well-being is a crusty shit stain on the worst granny panties society has to offer. 

any woman who does that should be ashamed of herself. and if she proudly puffs her chest out and indignantly and proudly assures us she is not ashamed? DOUBLE crusty shit stain. *nod*

jfc, learn to shut your mouth, yo...and stop being a dusty bitch. 

[didn't happen to me...at least today. just an slightly pissed-off ennui-laden observation based on something someone else went through.]

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now that i have that out of my system....

— we do NOT have movers because of nonsense and mayhem and dumbshittery and exorbitant prices. we do, however, have pods coming. tomorrow. o.O we're going to hire local, strong-man types to get the really weird and awkward stuff from upstairs to down, but other than that, mister will be loading boxes and i'll be helping with the other stuff. 

— the part of this that's making me cringe is that our stuff won't be arriving until about a week after we get out there. o.O PLUS...the stuff won't be delivered to new place...it's going to a storage facility 40 minutes 

— i accidentally made a modified version of chilaquiles this morning with flour tortillas. i was going for something....different....but whatever the eff i did was delicious. mister also liked it, so i may try to reconstruct it at a later date with better salsa and chorizo, potatoes, and eggs instead of taco meat and eggs. did i do fusion cuisine this morning? WHO KNOWS?

— the mls bullshit caused the value of our house to go down about $30K. *shrug* whatcha gonna do? it will all be ok. :) the real estate agent is telling us to take out the window ACs because they don't look that great (they never do) and i'm fighting that one: it's still fucking hot. we'll figure it out....there's nothing to do BUT figure it out. 

— so. yeah. hi. 

Comments

[kensmind.livejournal.com]

I hope the move goes well for you (or at least as well as a move can go).

The first part of your post brought back a recent experience I had on here and I wondered if the same person was attacking you too? I think most people behave like that because of mental illness, substance abuse or a combination of both. I just thank God I’m not living in their heads (or letting them live in mine.)

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

no one attacked me, but another person on my friend's list. she posted what this treasure of a human sent to her and i was like WTF. only rarely has someone messaged me with bullshit, and those times have just had me shake my head and laugh. i taught middle schoolers — nothing anyone can say to me will get beneath my skin. i just detest people who go after vulnerable people. ugh.

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

and thanks for the hopes and wishes for the move. it's going to happen one way or the other, so i'm just sort of shrugging my shoulders and hoping for the best.

[adafrog.livejournal.com]

OMG! {{{hugs for just being adjacent to it}}}

Too bad about moving companies.

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

thank you! and the moving company BS has been one of the biggest irritants of this move. lol

[zeecha.livejournal.com]

You're gonna have an adventure of a life time! And by the time it's all said & done, you'll have some muscles too! I think that was brilliant to think of getting pods. Well, you might end up in a motel for a few days/a week/whatever. Like I said, it'll all be an adventure!

I hate it when people are like what you described. it's a big WTF! sheesh.

hang in there.

hi!!

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

i love your attitude! :) it makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside....something i desperately need. :)

[aesam.livejournal.com]

About that first part, I've been through that too. Shook me and my mental state for a whole week, because I used to admire her and her strong will. She posted 2 large three paragraphs that were assumptions about me.

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

sometimes you think "oh, they're just having a bad day" but man....that's no excuse, you know? sorry you had to deal with multiple paragraphs of bullshit.

[debris4spike]

I think that is one of the reasons I enjoy blogging. I was bullied for 9 years at school and I find that it is hard to get friends with people in RL .. so if anyone has ever started anything then I block them.

But, as you say, why? I suppose they feel they need power over others ... but why? And even now, 45 years on I still don't know why one person tried making my life a living hell while I was at school.

And, now sorry I have ended up ranting at someone, rather than just agreeing that people should shut up. As my parents would say "If you haven't anything nice to say, then don't say anything"!

[deepseasiren.livejournal.com]

I was bullied in junior high school relentlessly so I totally get it. But at the same time, if someone attacks me first, I'm not going to take it lying down either. It's true that the wiser thing is to walk away sometimes, but for me, I simply don't do that.

[debris4spike]

*hugs*

Sadly I can "walk away" before I even speak to someone ... my self-protection is still in over-use!

[deepseasiren.livejournal.com]

I also understand that. My protection comes in the form of trusting very few people.

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

some of the bullies i've seen in school come from backgrounds/homes that would make you cry they're so terrible. (others are just plain assholes). it's no excuse, but in kids it seems like they want to lash out to try and get rid of the pain. :( if only real life were like that, right? like "YOU SUCK, I'M BLOCKING YOU!~"

[maju01.livejournal.com]

Your upcoming move is starting to sound really real. Good luck with all the details.

[chocolate-frapp.livejournal.com]

It happens to me all the damn time and men and women both do it. (hell, that old bitch Joan Rivers got a whole career out of it). Sometimes I don't even want to go out.

[deepseasiren.livejournal.com]

One time, there was this girl on here whom I had a minor disagreement with about her moving back in with her mother and treating her mother like shit. Well, you should have seen the long-ass winded e mail she sent me. All I could think of was, I must have really gotten under her skin. Because if someone doesn't care what you think, they wouldn't freak out so badly and take the time to write a ten thousand word e mail.

[deepseasiren.livejournal.com]

Well if someone attacks ME, I sure as shit am not going to lie down and take it. I actually have had some people do that and while it might be the wiser thing to back down, I simply do not.

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

it's less about being on the defense and more about just randomly going after people's achilles.

i don't back down either. lol

[deepseasiren.livejournal.com]

Well, I'll agree with that to an extent. But sometimes people need to be told off.

[honor-reid.livejournal.com]

I really don't understand people who would do that.

I've heard good things about pods, but I could see not having your stuff for a week and then it being 40 minutes away would be a big yikes. Hopefully it all goes very smoothly!

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

people who do that are horrible. ugh.

oh, i was wrong about pod timeline. o.O they're picking up on the 13th and we're not getting access until THE LAST DAY OF SEPTEMBER. *cry* lol

[elizalavelle.livejournal.com]

LJ seems like such a weird place to send people negative messages. I mean if you're not vibing with someone on your friends list just stop reading their LJ. Problem solved. You're right, extra rude points when someone goes out of their way just to be mean about someone's appearance. There's no time or place for that nonsense.

Good luck with the move. You're on the way to something great!

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

right? LJ drama just feels WEIRD.

[namastaybaybay.livejournal.com]

To be honest, I had a few come at me pretty nastily as of late about my mental state. Had it been pre 2021 I would have folded, but it's a mirror on them.

[liminal-space.livejournal.com]

you came after me hot and heavy a year(?) ago, so i know you get the whole "mirror on them" thing. it's just weird to do it on LJ. this is like a zen retreat.